So, about this other person. Perhaps you’ve experienced that you are not only interested in anyone, and therefore a individual you are drawn to both actually and emotionally and in addition desire to be sexual with isn’t some one you almost certainly meet each day.

Then you can grok that someone who is physically and emotionally attracted to you AND your boyfriend, and who also wants to have sex with you AND your boyfriend, and then who both you and your boyfriend want to have sex with is rarer still if you know what that’s like.